Very Common Misconceptions About The Stripper Industry.

A stripper or exotic dancer is a person whose occupation involves performing a striptease in a public adult entertainment venue such as a strip club.

Some prying questions about working in a strip club

There’s a misconception that most women are there because they have no choice, was that the case at all?

"I don’t think so... you can always get a retail job. I have a stripper friend and she’s an ex-college professor and has a Ph.D. She does it because she loves it and wants other females to feel that empowerment and embrace their sexuality. Women should really take control of who they are. To me, dancing is a feminist act."

Do some people consider stripping to be sex work?

"Some people do, but we are not sex workers (not that there is anything wrong with sex work). We do not want your man. We might think he’s cute and might flirt with him, but that’s because we want his money."

 Were there any downsides to the job?

"The drama. You don’t want to try and get caught up in the drama, because it’s a bunch of girls. There’s always, ‘oh well she’s taking my customer’. I watched one girl drag another through a dressing room. She broke out the pepper spray and we all got sprayed in the face trying to get her off. I had to go out there all swollen.

Will People will judge you and your family?
Well, OK. People are going to judge no matter what I do. I may as well enjoy myself.

What happens in the VIP rooms? 
The VIP room is essentially just a bit more private. If you're OK with letting someone touch you (depending on club rules), you can snuggle or do very up-close dances. In most cases, there are bouncers and cameras so nothing illegal or abusive happens.

How much money do you really make? 
It depends. Some nights are amazing and you feel like a rock star. Other nights, you might owe the club money. We pay the club per shift (anywhere from $50 to $200), then we have to tip out to waitresses, bartenders, and sometimes DJs. We take home whatever is left.

What do you do when you have your period? 
You can snip a tampon string so it's very short and isn't likely to be visible, or you can use a menstrual cup. I've used both, and it's never a problem. I also take a Midol or two to reduce fatigue, grumpiness and bloating.

Aren't most guys total jerks in a strip club? 
Some guys are just going to be a dick at a club, but most aren't. Most just want to have a drink, see some girls shake their asses, and move on to the next place. If I can add a little fun or a smile to their night, that's great — I like thinking I've made a difference in someone's day.

What if someone tries to hurt you? 
I'm in a very safe club in a pretty safe part of town. There are bouncers and cameras all over the place. Bouncers walk you to your car, so the odds are ever in your favor. I don't tell anyone my real name since they could find me online, and I carry pepper spray. I also know self-defense. I don't feel unsafe at all.

Try not to get too judgmental if there are dancers in your life. The bottom line is this: I'm confident in myself, my choices, and my ability to support myself. Those things are more important to me than someone else's judgment about my life.
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